“Trust is the glue of life. It's the most essential ingredient in effective communication. It's the foundational principle that holds all relationships.”
In any friendship or relationships, you need one thing in particular and that is trust. Without trust, you will not be able to have a healthy friendship or relationship. Throughout my life, I’ve had many friendships. Over time I’ve realized that due to the fact that there was a lack of trust the friendship did not last.
For example, I was really close to someone who broke my trust. My male best friend and I were extremely close. We were best friends for one year and seven months. I had put so much trust in him. He always had my back and was there for me when I lost my cousin. Because he was so reliable, I put all of my trust in our friendship. But over time, our friendship changed. It changed when he blocked him on social media and told his cousin to tell me to find me a new best friend. I was deeply hurt inside and couldn’t do anything but cry. I was grateful for my friends who were there for me when I needed them the most. I think what hurt the most from this friendship is that my friend was unwilling to talk things through and help me understand why he felt the need to end our friendship.
Once you have been hurt by a friend it can be hard to trust other people because you tend to think that everyone will do the same thing. However, that is not true at all. I had a friend who I was close with once. We had a falling out and I blocked him on social media. However we were able to talk about what happened and eventually we became close again. We were able to build our trust and friendship back with each other overtime.
Building trust can be hard when your young and still figuring out who you are as a person. Here are three things you can do in your friendships to help build trust and keep it:
Communicate, Communicate, Communicate
It's so important to communicate with your friends about how you are feeling and what is going on in your life. You don’t have to tell them everything all the time. However, if your friend does something to you that you don't like to be honest with them and let them know. That is the only way you will be able to work through your issues with one another.
Being honest with your friends is the key to building trust and maintaining a healthy friendship.
You should always be honest with people even when the truth hurts.
Just like you need encouragement your friends do to. In our teen years it can feel like all we have in our life are our friends.
Aysia Veals is an 8th grade student from Baton Rouge, Louisiana.